How much are you worth?
Are you kind?
Are you compassionate?
Are you loyal?
Are you honest?
Are you passionate?
If you answered yes to these questions, you’re worth a lot more than you think. The words listed above might seem silly but these traits are hard to come by. I can count on one hand the amount of people I know who are all of the above. I understand circumstances change the way we are perceived, but you’re always your authentic self no matter what and you can’t lose sight of that.
We were all taught the golden rule growing up, I think some people forgot. If someone treats you like garbage, there’s only two explanations…they are garbage or you allowed them to treat you like garbage and most of the time it’s a combination of both. What you allow is what will continue, this comes from a lack of boundaries. We can’t blame other for treating us like garbage if we failed to set boundaries and failed to address the matter.
It sounds so cut throat but we can’t rely on others to make us feel good about ourselves or to treat us right. We have to treat ourselves right and we have to make ourselves feel good, because at the end of the day even if you’ve got someone lying in bed next to you, all you have is yourself.
YOU HAVE TO KNOW YOUR WORTH.
I spent eight years of my life letting multiple people treat me like garbage, so I know what it feels like. I also know what it feels like to stand up for yourself after that length of time. Spoiler alert: It only makes things worse. You have to establish boundaries at the beginning of the relationship, whatever kind of relationship it may be. People will only notice your actions and how you have “changed,” they won’t notice how their actions have influenced your new-found strength and you’ll automatically look like the bad guy. You know what though? Fuck it. Be the bad guy, let everyone think you’re the bad guy…it’s going to suck. Trust me, some days are going to suck; but not all days will suck. You have to know your worth. I know my worth; now. I didn’t before and I spent countless nights wondering why I wasn’t good enough and asking myself, “What did I do wrong.” The only thing I did wrong was not set boundaries. I used to walk into a room and instantly wonder what everyone thought, were they judging me, did they like me, was I pretty enough; now I walk into a room of people and ask myself if I like them?
I’m interested to hear your thoughts on this matter! Write me. XOXO