I’ve been planning our wedding for over a year and a half now and if I could go back and start the planning process all over again I would in heartbeat. I’ve never planned a wedding before so I knew there was going to be things that were unfamiliar. Here is a list of things I would recommend to future brides to help make the process easier and less stressful.
Don’t have a 2 year + engagement unless you ABSOLUTELY have to, and I mean absolutely.
Don’t pick your bridal party until maybe 6 months before…at the earliest…we’ve lost 3 bridesmaids and 1 groomsmen, it is not a fun process and the excitement of getting engaged and planning will make you want to pick your bridal party ASAP, but please don’t. It’s in your best interest. Things change and so do relationships.
Think long and hard on the number of guest you would like to have, then give your grooms parents X amount of people and the Brides’s parents X amount of people and then save some for you and your groomy. This will help the wedding be more about the two families coming together than it turning into a show per say, it will also help both the bride and groom feel their families are both equally important.
Agree on guests, are you inviting extended family or not are you inviting clients from work or people you’ve never met? Remember it’s YOUR big day! Things can get crazy and out of control if this is not agreed upon at the beginning of the planning process.
Obviously a budget is one of the most important things, you need to sit down with everyone who is paying for things and let them let you know how much they are willing to spend, this gives you and your groom the freedom to look for vendors on your own, with still being respectful of your budget.
Assign different tasks to family members. I’ve had a great experience with this. If your parents are not still married this is a great way to make everyone feel included, remember that other people have also dreamed of this day for you and they want to be a part of it. For instance my Biological Mother is responsible for the cake and the flowers, It gave us time to go look at cakes and pick out flowers and she feels included.
Make a private Facebook page for you and your bridesmaids so they all get to know each other and this helps keep everyone on the same page! literally.
Create a knot.com account, this will help you stay on top of deadlines and you can also create a wedding website, it’s very easy and so much fun. It is also informative for wedding guest, you can add times, locations, directions registries and more!
I hope these tips find you well. I’ve just touched base on these few topics. I will continue to add to this list as the planning continues. If you would like anymore advice please feel free to contact me directly. Thanks!